Dear Pastor,

I am currently in a relationship with a man almost twice my age, who I love very much. I met him through his sister one night when I went to visit her family for the first time. At first, when we started dating, all was going well until one night we went home and he wanted to have sex with me and I told him it was not convenient at the time because it was my time of the month. I saw a change in his behaviour and I have wondered why he was acting like that. For some reason I feel that it is because when we started having sex at first, he ejaculated in me with the intention of getting me pregnant but I didn't get pregnant.

Please advise me about what to do because I love him very much but he is acting differently towards me. I tried talking to him and asking him what the problem is and all he does is ask me what my problem is in return.

I haven't had sex with him for a week now and usually we have sex almost everyday. We had sex regularly but now he is pushing me to go outside of our relationship to get it.

I would like to know if "having sex regularly is bad for my health?" Please help me.

Frustrated, St Catherine, Jamaica

Dear Frustrated,

Evidently, this man has got what he wanted from you and that was sex as often as he could have managed. Now he is tired of you and the sex with you is not as sweet as before. You are quite willing to continue to do it everyday, but he is not.

You said that he is about twice your age. If he is not tired of you, perhaps his body cannot go up to it. Perhaps, you have "rocked" out his body. You seem to like sex very much. Imagine you are tempted to go out of the relationship to have sex so soon. Girl, you are bad, very bad. Don't yield to such a temptation.

Frankly, you are not using common sense. You should be glad that this man did not impregnate you. What you should be wanting out of life now is a good education, not a baby. A wise young woman would not be having unprotected sex with this man.

If this man is serious about the relationship, he would take time to talk to you. As I see it, he is a user. Having sex with him regularly would not cause him to stay with you. His intention towards you is not good.

Pastor