Dear Pastor,

I am a 26-year-old woman seeking your advice. I have been with my boyfriend for four years. Everything was okay until I started to work in Montego Bay. He kept calling and telling me I have a man and I am not working as I said I was. Everyday was the same accusation. I told him to come and look for me and he will know where I am living. He said he was not coming.

Because of him, I am no longer working and I am so sorry I left the job because whatever I say or do he curses and calls me names. I am tired of this.

I need your help, please. I love my boyfriend and I want things to work out for us. I am looking forward for your fatherly advice.

N.B., Kingston, Jamaica

Dear N.B.,

You made a big mistake by giving up your job. That was not a very wise thing to do. Your boyfriend behaved as a fool. You should not put a man ahead of your job and you are not even married to him. He does not respect you and he does not care about you.

Go and get yourself another job. If you don't this man will continue to curse you and to have you under his control.

Pastor