Dear Pastor,

I read your column all the time and I now have a problem that I would like you to help me with. I have been in my current relationship since the age of 14; I am now 23 years old. I love him so much and I can't imagine my life without him, neither can I afford to lose him. We have a two-year-old son together. Recently, he has changed, especially since he bought a car, he's completely not the same person I knew before. He started an argument with me one night and left the house. He has not been back for the last two weeks and I have not heard from him or seen him. When I try to call his phone, he refuses to answer my calls. "What if my baby is sick one night, what am I going to do?"

I want to know what the problem is. Why is he behaving like this? I am so confused about all of this. My mother passed away three months ago and my father passed away three years ago. I have two younger sisters taking care of in addition to my son, but thank God that I am working. I am not comfortable at all with the way my life is going. I want him back in my life. I am not going to make Satan take control of my life. My child's father has taken such good care of me. I do not know what else to do.

I need your advice. I don't know if it is because of my parents passing which causes my mind to be so mixed up, and the constant pressure of bills and the basic necessities. I never knew that this storm cloud would pass my way. I'm not comfortable in my spirit and I'm still going through the pain of being hurt. I am not eating and I am losing weight. I need God to just appear to me and let me know that everything will be okay. I love this man so much.

Please give me your fatherly advice.

S., Clarendon, Jamaica

Dear S.,

I am sorry to hear that you are under so much pressure. And your child's father is not making it easier for you. I hope that he would not abandon you. I hope that he will come to see you soon and give you money to support his child.

I would suggest that you take time to read your Bible and pray and go to church. If you attend church, you should get to know the ladies and become a part of the women's league. They will get to know you and give you moral and spiritual support. And, I further suggest that you make an appointment to see a family counsellor.

Pastor