Dear Pastor.

I am 17 years old. I am in love with a 26-year-old man. We are so deeply in love with each other. Before we met there was another guy who really likes me. We started a relationship and within that time I disrespected him three times. However, that didn't change his mind from having me in his life. He proposed to me recently, but the problem is I don't love him at all. I am completely in love with the 26-year-old man. We both love and care for each other deeply.

I am so confused. I need your fatherly advice. Thank you.

K., Clarendon, Jamaica

Dear K.,

You have to learn to behave yourself. You ought not to be trying to trick men. You are going to get into trouble with men. You started a relationship with a young man but you don't love him. You should have told him so. He loves you and he probably feels he is the only man in your life. You know it is not so.

You have been fooling around a 26-year-old man. If you are not careful he will use you. In fact, both men will use and dump you. So, I beg you, if you have a boyfriend don't have two and don't try to fool him because, I repeat, you will get hurt. One of these guys might even get you pregnant and you won't know which one, so put your lessons first and give yourself time to grow up.

Pastor