Dear Pastor,

I am having a few problems. I am a Christian and my parents grew me up in the church. When I went to college I dated a few guys but they were not Christians. So, nothing serious happened between myself and any of them.

A couple years ago, I met an American man. He was visiting Jamaica for the first time. My parents and I were at the same hotel that he was staying. Immediately we hit it off. He told me he was single and was hoping to find a wife. Six months after, we were married. But, now I regret becoming his wife.

This man is a liar. I went to visit him in America and found out he is bisexual. When I confronted him about it, he said that shouldn't bother me. He also shocked me when he told me he is not ready to change. I could not believe what he was saying and, would you believe that he also wanted to introduce me to his lover?

I cannot tell my parents what is happening to me, and I don't know how to handle this situation. I was so upset. I did not even tell him when I was leaving to come back to Jamaica, and I have not called him since I returned.

G.E., Jamaica

Dear G.E.,

I believe you need to see a lawyer. This man should have told you before you married him that he was bisexual. Now you have found out, he is behaving as if you are obligated to stay with him. I am sure you know that you are not. How can he expect you to accept what he is doing as the norm? You don't need me to tell you that he is a deceiver.

But, since you asked me for my opinion, I must tell you, for your own sanity, you should go and put this matter into the hands of a lawyer, and 'free up' yourself. You need to do so as early as possible.

You should also inform your parents your husband has advised you he is bisexual and you do not wish to continue having him as your husband.

You don't have to hate your husband, but you don't have to tolerate his lifestyle either.

Pastor