Dear Pastor,

I am a regular reader of your column. I met a guy and we have been together for three months. I go to his house every week. I am in college and not working at the moment. When I was working I saved a lot so it keeps me going. Now that I am not working he has never given me anything and he is always asking me to do things for him. He even asked me for small amounts of money two times. He didn't get me anything for Valentine's Day.

I don't like asking men for anything, but one day I finally asked him for some money. It wasn't much and I really didn't need it. I just wanted to see if he would give it to me. He is in a good job and he gets good pay. He said he would give me the money. He had money and even asked me for a small change and I gave it to him. He didn't give me it back, but it was okay because it was not much. We spent the day together and I still didn't ask him or remind him about it.

After he took me home, he called me and told me that he forgot to give me the money. But I do not think he forgot. I just think he didn't want to and he should have just said that. I have never asked him for anything before so I don't think he should have been so mean. He has never offered me anything. I just wanted to see if I ever needed help if he would assist me.

We are still seeing each other, but should I leave or stay?

M.D., St Mary, Jamaica

Dear M.D.,

This guy is a user. He is just mean; he sees you as a naïve young lady who is willing to give him money whenever he is in need. He is a wicked man.

You should stop going to his home. In fact, you should end the relationship with him. He doesn't care about you. He is not a good man.

Pastor