Dear Pastor,

I am a regular reader of your column, and I must congratulate you for helping so many people. I am 27-years-old and living with a man. We have two children together. This man and I are coming from far. Recently, I found out that he has a schoolgirl and she has been going to hotels with him.

I searched his phone and found pictures of the girl "skinning" out. I was so shocked. I called the girl's mother and told her about her daughter and my man and she cursed me, and told me that if I knew how to hold my man, he wouldn't have to go with her daughter. I could not believe that one woman was saying that to another woman. The girl is only 17 years of age.

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I asked my man about it, and he told me that he is sorry. He didn't mean for me to find out, and it is the girl who would not leave him alone. He said he only gave her $3,000.00 and bought her a pair of shoes.

Pastor, I am so upset. The car that he has, and that this girl is driving in, was bought with my money.

And imagine that when I don't see him come for me to take me home, he is with this out-of-order girl. Right now I am pregnant. It is the first time that he is disrespecting me.

We are living in my father's house. I told him that if he doesn't stop seeing the girl, I am going to put him out. My father loves him very much, and I don't want him to know that he has let him down and that he is fooling around.

You should see the text messages that this girl has sent to him. Whenever I think of it, my heart starts to beat fast. Please tell me what to do.

B.T., St Catherine, Jamaica

Dear B.T.,

Your man has made a big mistake. But, I am glad that he has shown remorse. Some men do wrong and when their spouses speak to them, they insult them, and remind them that they are big men, and big men can do whatever they want. But your man, whether he is lying, or speaking the truth, is rather penitent.

Of course, the girl's mother is probably very immoral. As far as she is concerned, her daughter has not done anything wrong.

The mother has no shame, neither does her daughter. I hope that your man will bring an end to the relationship he is having with the schoolgirl, and that he will not cause you to take the next step, which is to put him out.

Pastor