I have been in a relationship for the last five years with this guy. He was treating me like a princess until I told him I am pregnant. Everything started to go wrong. He treats me now as if I am nobody.

He cheated on me with my best friend and also my cousin. One day I went to his house, knocked on the door. He asked who was it and when I answered, he said, "You don't live somewhere?" I decided not to leave his door until he came out to speak to me. When he finally opened the door, I saw my cousin coming out of his house. Pastor, I really love him and I don't want to lose him. I don't know what to do. I need your advice, please.

R.B., St Andrew, Jamaica

Dear R.B.,

You don't want to lose him, but you fail to see that he enjoys having sex with other women. The man does not even discriminate when it comes to sex. He had sex with your best friend and even with your cousin. So, if you don't want to lose him, you are going to have to be prepared to share him with as many women as he so determines.

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Perhaps he believes now that you are pregnant is a good time for him to have a fling with other women. Perhaps it is not that he loves them, it is just a matter of sex.

When you went to his house and saw your cousin there, he was surprised to see you. Your cousin made herself cheap, but perhaps she went to bed with him because of the money he could give her. Again, I say, your boyfriend does not discriminate when it comes to women. He reminds me of the words of a calypso, "Nobody can escape from Mr Rake and Scrape." Perhaps any woman who is careless, and comes around your man right now, will be taken to bed.

Try to keep yourself calm. After you have had your baby, tell your boyfriend both of you should go see a family counsellor.

Pastor