Dear Pastor,

I am a 20-year-old who is in a relationship with my best friend, who is with another girl. They were together before we started talking. We both wanted to be more than best friends but, at the time, I was in a relationship that was coming to an end. I wouldn't say he is on the rebound because we been flirting long before he knew my ex-boyfriend and I were having problems.

We have been together for six months and it has been great. I thought I could be in a relationship with this guy, and the fact that he has a girlfriend wouldn't bother me, but now I want him to leave the other girl so I can have him for myself. I really love him and he loves me too. We are around each other most of the times and, when we are not, the batteries run hot.

This girl is too busy for him but I really don't know what he thinks of her because he never wants to talk about it. His excuse is that he loves me and that's all that matters.

Please, help me. I want him for myself. I am confused. What am I to do Pastor?

P.C.

Dear P.C.,

You need to be warned that what you are doing is not commendable. You have encouraged this young man to become intimate with you while you were very much aware that he has a girlfriend. Do not fool yourself in believing he will give up his girlfriend for you, the girl, who has made herself cheap. The girl who has no class at all and is doing everything in her power to get him to leave his girlfriend.

I have news for you. The young man does not want you to ask him anything about his girlfriend. His girlfriend is the queen. She is beautiful in and out. You can't come close to her. He will take you on and go to bed with you because you are easy to get and nothing more.

This man cannot trust you because, although you were in a steady relationship, you were willing to have another man at the same time. Check yourself, young girl. What you are doing is wrong. Tell the man you consider to be your best friend that both of you should call it a day and he should stick with his girlfriend.

Pastor