Dear Pastor,

I am 27 and have a big problem. I have a girlfriend who is 20 and I love her very much. Both of us attend the same church and I would like to marry her. My girlfriend is a virgin and she is the daughter of the elder of the church. He called us together and gave us his blessings, but I am afraid of this relationship because I have a small penis. And when I say small, pastor, I mean very small.

Before I became a Christian, I used to have sex with different girls and none of them stayed with me, because they said my penis is too small and they do not feel anything.

Sometimes when I am going out and I put on my pants and look at myself, my trousers front is so flat that I have to stuff my brief to make me look buffy. I do not want to tell my girlfriend about my problem because she may tell her father what I said. Both of them are close and she tells him everything.

Pastor, I cannot continue this way. I really want to get married and to have children; and I would like to be able to have good sex and to satisfy my wife. Please, I am begging you to give you my advice.

C.F., St. Mary, Jamaica

Dear C.F.,

Every normal man wants to know that he can manage when it comes to having sex. And, some women have taunted their men; and have continued to say that size matters and the bigger the better. As I understand your letter, you are not seeking a very large penis, you simply want yours to be the average size. The question is, what is the average size?

Some professionals say that an average-sized penis is 3 inches in length. But, then again, some men may have the length and nothing more. If the diameter is lacking, women laugh at them just the same and say nothing is there.

Brother, you do not need to pad yourself to make your pants front look bigger. The truth is, some women are turned on by a man who is looking buffy, while others are turned off. It is not the size that matters (although some women will not agree with me). A woman's vagina can accommodate a penis whether it is big or small, because her vagina is elastic.

However, I do not want to imply that if a man has a penis that is the size of a toothpick, he should not seek to improve the size. Therefore, I would urge you to visit your doctor and tell him about your concerns, and I am sure he would advice you appropriately. Let me quickly add that until you are fully convinced that you are physically capable to satisfy your woman after marriage, you do not get married.

Pastor