Dear Pastor,

Greetings to you and your staff. I have been reading your column from I was around 13 or 14 years old and now I am 41. I really need your advice on this problem.

My uncle and his wife are married for the past 35 years. They are in their late 50s. His wife found out that he is cheating. She spoke to him about it and he denied all of it, so she decided to work things out. But the affair did not stop. The thing about it is he gives the other girls all his money and give his wife only $2,000 per week. This money has to take care of his father because he is living with them. What can $2,000 do, Pastor? He does not buy anything in the house. If she asks him for money to buy an item, he does not help but she still gives him two meals per day and his father gets three.

He got baptised from he was 17 years old, and now that he is in his 50s he decided to drop Christianity. Since his wife found out what he was doing and spoke to him, there have not been any changes. He had $2,000 in his account last December. He took it out little by little until he has $1,000 in it now.

His wife found out that he sent one of his girlfriends to school and buys her anything that she needs. He also paid plane fare for another girl and her mother to go overseas. It is not only one, but two of them. I feel very bad for his wife because she is a very nice lady who tries to live a Christian life. She gives him breakfast before he goes to work and dinner when he comes home.

She is working minimum wage and now she can hardly find money to buy things. She is asking me what to do and I don't know what to tell her. Pastor, I don't want to tell her what to do because I know if it were me, I would run.

Please, give me your advice. You always have good advice.

A.H.

Dear A.H.,

Tell your uncle's wife to go on strike. Tell her before she goes on the strike she should warn him that he should take the $2,000 that he gives to her and purchase the groceries himself. And if he does not bring in enough, no cooking would take place in the house and everybody will have to fend for themselves. So it is time for her to call a silence strike. No more fuss, no more argument. Enough is enough.

Tell her that if he tries to argue with her, she should tell him that if she should continue to be his wife, both of them should go to see a family counsellor. Before the counsellor, she should talk about all the problems she is having with him.

Pastor