Dear Pastor,

Greetings to you and keep up the good work that you have been doing. I always read your column and I like the advice you give. I don't have a biological family. I used to live with my adopted grandmother and one day I just packed my things and left because we could not get along. She still wanted to treat me like a baby and I was a grown woman, so I left her house.

I got involved in a relationship with a guy whose family is poor and I am poor also. It so happened that he was in a relationship with a girl while I was pregnant for him. He wasn't honest with me from the moment I got pregnant. When his girlfriend found out that I was pregnant, she called my phone almost every day and argued with me, but I didn't take her on. No one in my boyfriend's family talks good about her.

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When I was seven weeks pregnant, I asked him if I should have an abortion. He said he would stand up to his responsibility. Now, he is the worst thing that could ever happen to me. When I was in hospital, he didn't visit me. He only registered the baby and the next day he gave me a 20-pack of pampers. The baby is six months now, and from that time until now, I only receive 80 pampers from him.

When he is around his friends, he shows off the baby and no one knows that he has not been a father and a man of his word. He and his girlfriend pierced my six-month-old baby's ears without my permission and I cried because they never asked my permission. They have no respect whatsoever for anyone.

Pastor, I am planning to stop allowing him to take the baby to spend time with him. I will not let the baby go to spend time with him again. Sometimes when I am at work the baby is by his mother, but all of that is going to stop because he doesn't respect me, so I don't see why my child should be around people who don't have any respect for me or willing to help me make the right decision. I might just kill the child and go to prison.

Please help me.

Unhappy Mother

Dear Unhappy Mother,

The father of your child has not kept his promise. He assured you that he would stand with you and help you to support the baby, but the only thing he has done so far was to buy Pampers. He has not been a good father, but you were not aware that he had another woman when you got involved with him.

I am glad that his mother is keeping the baby when you are at work. You should ask her to encourage her son to support the child and not to take the child to his girlfriend's house.

Try your very best to go back to school and educate yourself. And please avoid getting into any argument with his girlfriend.

Pastor