Dear Pastor,

I am a regular reader of your column and I enjoy reading it. I am 31 and in a relationship with a 40-year-old woman. This woman looks much younger than her age. When I met her she lied about her age. She told me that she was in her middle 30s and she had one child. After becoming involved with her I realised that she has three children, but only one is living with her.

One day I went to her apartment and I caught her in bed with another woman. Both of them were in the nude making love. She became confused and asked me why I didn't knock. I asked her why I should knock and I have keys to the apartment. Her partner didn't even cover up. She admitted to me that she is bisexual and asked me not to leave her. She said that she wants us to continue our relationship and she would stop seeing the girl.

The young lady went into another room. When it was evening, I asked if she wasn't going to leave and she said that she came to spend the weekend so she wouldn't ask her to go. To cut a long story short, I don't know what to do. She is a very beautiful woman, but she is also deceptive. She lied about the number of children she has and she did not tell me that she is bisexual. Do you think that I can trust this woman? Your response would be greatly appreciated.

A.R.

Dear A.R.,

I hope I would not disappoint you with my answer, but I can't encourage you to continue in this relationship. This woman cannot be trusted. And you are quite right in describing her as deceptive. She told you that she had one child, when indeed she has three. She did not mention that she was bisexual and you had to find that out. She probably has more things in her closest that you don't know about. So I suggest that you do not go further with this relationship.

Pastor