November 2, 2012
I lied but I didn't cheat
The STAR, is giving away one free lie-detector test each month to one deserving person. To win the test share your story with us in an effort to prove your innocence or to show that someone else is lying about you. Here is the story of one reader who is being accused of being an unfaithful girlfriend.
SHELDON WILLIAMS, Staff Reporter
Mishka'srelationship has been suffering from lack of trust as her common-law husband of eight years constantly accuses her of infidelity, an allegation which she habitually denies.
The couple has a seven-year-old son but the relationship is plunging to rock bottom.
"I wasn't truthful to him when we started talking because I had trust issues coming from past relationships, so I lied to him alot so because of that him think that mi cheat on him, so mi want to prove to him that mi never cheat on him before," she said.
She attributes her common-law husband's infidelity suspicion to her reluctance to speak about her past relationships as she prefers to remain secretive in that regard and move on with her life.
According to her, she only uses lies as a protective measure and deterrent from forcing her to give thought to a past she wants to forget.
However, she maintains that her past occurrences pose no threat to her current involvement.
"It's nothing that can hurt the current relationship but you know you might not feel like to talk about everything that you go through in the past. You are not forthcoming with everything. It's like mi no wah bring it up, me just want to put it behind me," she said.
She admits that her lies have put her family expansion plans in jeopardy as she wants another child but her husband is holding back.
"Based on how him no trust mi, mi wah have another kid and him a tell me seh based on the lies weh mi tell him, him no want go down that road deh again. The last time him tell mi son seh it's because of me why he doesn't want to have a next child," she explained.
She explained that she met her common-law husband in May 2004, after being introduced to him by a mutual friend and they immediately became intimate.
She confessed that their relationship was smooth sailing in the earlier months but took a change for the worst after the birth of their son a year later.
Since the child's birth, the infidelity scrutiny has become unbearable forcing her to resort to lying about her whereabouts but still she maintains her faithfulness. Her incomplete answers to his drilling questions have also fuelled his speculations.
"Him will ask me something, anything at all and you no give him the full story and then him come back and ask you again and you tell him something that you forget to add on, then him tell you seh you a tell a lie overall," Mishka admitted.
THE WEEKEND STAR was unable to interview the common-law husband as Mishka said he was at work and not permitted to take calls.
She is desperately seeking the lie-detector test to remove all suspicion from his mind that she is unfaithful.