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November 14, 2012
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House chaos

Dear Pastor,

I am having a problem, but I never thought that I would have an occasion to write to you. I read your column all the time and I listen to you every night on the radio. You are doing a good job. Please keep it up.

I am 55 years old and I got married to a 39-year-old woman. Before we got married she agreed that we wouldn't have children. I have three children and she has two. Her children are young, so I help to send them to school. All my children are big people. I only have one son in college. I had my children young. In those days I used to run around.

My wife has everything to her convenience. The house that we are living in belongs to me and two of the children and now this is causing a problem between us. She is saying that if anything should happen, she would have to leave because her name is not on the title. Any time we talk about the future, she raises the argument about the house.

I am so fed up now that I told her that she can pack her things and leave. She called some of my friends and told them that I am putting her out of the house because I have another woman to bring in.

Pastor, I cannot put her name on the title because my children will not agree, so I am asking you for your advice.


Dear T.R.,

I regret hearing that your wife is causing you much unhappiness. Both of you agreed to get married and she knew that two of your children and yourself are owners of the house that you live. Instead of pressuring you to add her name on the title, she should be encouraging you to purchase another place with her.

Some women are eager to have their names on house titles, and sometimes that can cause a big problem.

Before couples get married, these things should be discussed and decisions made. I suggest that you and this woman go to see a lawyer who would advise you appropriately.


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