Dear Pastor,

I have been listening to you on the radio for about a year and I love your show. My guy and I listen to it when we are in bed at nights, and you couldn't tell the truth more. Listen here, Pastor, I am from Missouri in the USA and I am with a Jamaican Rasta king. I love him so dearly and I am happy with him. Don't get me wrong, but sometimes a woman needs some excitement and for a man to be spontaneous. He most definitely has the package, and there is no complaint there. But, it is hard for me as a woman with bedroom skills to just lie down and get it and not be able to give it to him. Maybe he is old-fashioned, but I don't want to just lie there without any excitement.

Sometimes I want to go on top to show what I can do while playing soft music and burning candles. Though there is one thing that he will not do, which I will not say, but it is something Jamaican men don't believe in and that is fine with me. But that just means that the sex should be even more amazingly right? Well, let me know Dear Pastor if anything is wrong with that?

L.T

Dear L.T.,

Remember that this man is a Rastafarian. And generally, Rastas believe that they should be in control in all things. It might be difficult, therefore, for this man to change. But the good news is that both of you love each other. So, you should be able to communicate with each other and express yourself to each other without reservation.

If you find that your boyfriend is pig-headed and is not open to your suggestions, you may buy books and both of you can read them together. I hope that both of you would get married and raise a family together. I wish both of you every success in life.

Pastor