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January 17, 2013
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Should I take her back?

Dear Pastor,

I have been living in St Catherine and I really like a girl in my area. She was in a relationship with one of my friends. I knew that the relationship that she was having with my friend was not going to last because he physically abuses women. I heard that he was supporting her financially, while she was using the money he gave her to take care of her school boyfriend. He is in a good job.

One night, I heard that my friend locked her up in the house and was abusing her because he caught her with her school boyfriend. He sent her back home and we got involved.

She called me one day and asked me where I was and I told her that I was at work, but I was not at work. I walked up to her house and opened the door and saw her with the same school boyfriend that caused her and my friend to break up, so I left.

She doesn't have a good mattress on her bed or a television and I was planning to buy her them, but I will not do it again. I told her not to call or text me but she keeps doing it. She is even telling me now how much she loves me and that I should take her back.

What should I do?


Dear M.J.,

If you can help this young woman, do so. Evidently, she is not very smart. But she knows that she loves her school boyfriend. Perhaps when she called and asked you where you were, she was with her school friend and she did not want you to meet him at her house. But because you did not tell her the truth, you caught her with him. You know you like the girl and you know that she is very poor, so buy her the mattress and the television.

Don't even think about who might enjoy that mattress, apart from her. Let's hope that it would be strictly used by her for her comfort.

You would have to decide whether or not you really want to continue this relationship with this young woman.


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