I am a 19-year-old girl and I am involved with a man who is 40. He has 11 children and 10 babymothers. When I am around him I feel insecure. He has a girlfriend overseas. I have been talking to him from December 2012. He wants me to move in with him but I told him that I will do so in July, on my birthday, if everything goes well, and he agreed.

When I am at his house, he is always on the phone, so I asked him one day if he is going to do the same when I move in with him and he said no. I also asked him what is going to happen when his girlfriend who lives abroad comes to Jamaica. He told me that he runs his show so I should not worry myself.

One day, he gave me his phone to use and I searched it and saw some pictures in it. One was showing a girl's vagina and breasts and also pictures of one of his babymother's sister. She was in her bra, but the pictures were taken before we started talking because the date recorded is October 2012. I was upset with him and he asked me what was wrong and I said nothing. I didn't tell him that I saw the pictures.

He always tells me that he loves me but I don't know if I love him. I don't know what to do. He is very jealous and he is always doing things to make me jealous.

T.G.

Dear T.G.,

If you know what is good for you, you would leave this man. Just get out of his life now. If you don't want to live a dog's life, keep your clothes on and your legs shut. If you fool around with this man, you are going to become another babymother before you can count, one, two, three. If you had any pride at all, and for that matter, common sense, you will run from this man who is 40 years old and has 10 babymothers.

Don't fool yourself. You will never stop him from keeping other women. He is a sex addict. He is irresponsible. And if you were wise, you would run from him. The same thing you have, the other women have. So, leave this man now. Don't go back to his place and don't listen to his lies. If you do, you will weep and mourn because of your stupid mistakes.

Pastor