Think I’m falling in love with my ‘cousin’

April 08, 2021

Dear Pastor,

I am 34 years old and I am living in Canada. I am faced with a dilemma. I have a good job in Canada, but I am not married. I have a cousin in Jamaica who has always liked me.

From we were in school he used to tell me that he loved me and I always had to remind him that we were cousins. He would say cousin or no cousin, I had to be his wife. I told my mother that he told me he loved me and my mother told him to stop saying that because we were related. He got a young girl pregnant so he has a daughter. The last time I was in Jamaica I saw him and he told me he was ready to settle down and I told him I was glad to hear that and told him to settle down with his babymother. He said no, he wanted to settle down with me. I took shirts and underwear for him and he wanted me to agree for us to get engaged, but I refused. Pastor, although we are cousins my love for this man is growing. We have never had sex but I kissed him twice. He is five years older than I am and he has built himself a lovely home in Jamaica. I don't intend to go back to live in Jamaica, but I would love to get married. Please give me your advice.


Dear Anonymous,

If you and this man are 'near' cousins, I discourage you from getting married to him. If you are 'far' cousins, then getting married to him will not be an issue. The Bible said people of near-kin should not get married because of bad genes and those bad genes will even cause their children to suffer deformities. So, make sure you check this one out very carefully so that you don't create problem for yourself in years to come.


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