Think my babyfather’s relatives have ‘tied’ me to him

April 09, 2021

Dear Pastor,

I take this opportunity to write to you because I know my life is a mess and I need your help. I am 23 and I have been talking to this guy since I was 17. I love him but he keeps cheating on me and it is like I cannot walk away no matter what I do. We had a son in 2019 and last year, I gave birth to a daughter. When I found out I was pregnant with my daughter I was going to kill myself, but I love my son too much to leave him alone. My daughter is a beautiful little angel. Pastor, I really think that this guy's relatives have 'tied' me to this man and it is painful because he is not doing anything for me or the children. He cheats on me, hurts me in the worst ways you can think of, and every time I try to walk away, I can feel something pulling me back. When I tell people how I feel they laugh at me and say I am not a goat so no one can tie me. I tried talking to other guys but that lasted for maybe a month. I don't know what else to do. I am the only one feeling this and I know that one day I am going to take my life. I think about getting baptised as that may be the only way I can break free. I need help. I am crying. I am not really looking for a man because no one is going to take me up with two children at my age. I don't know if anyone has clothes for a two-year-old boy. Please pray for me.

Initials withheld on request

Dear writer,

Let me b egin by assuring yo u that I believe that you are under stress. Your children's fa ther is not a caring and helpful man and the way he is behaving will give you the impression that he wants to drive you insane. But I want to assure you that if you put your trust in God, he will not allow you to become insane and lose your mind. You now have t wo children for him.

It is unfortunate that you allowed this man to get you pregnant the second time. You should not have been having unprotected sex with him. Right now you need the help of a professional to learn how to cope with this m an. The truth is you realise that you should not be living with him because he is emotionally and psychologically abusing you. You say that his relatives have 'tied' both of you together. It is so unfortunate for a girl your age to believe that people can 'tie' a couple together. Life will be very burdensome if you believe that people have 'tied' you together and that is why you are unable to leave him. Now I know that in this world people do plenty of nastiness. Woman have told me what they have done to 'tie' men, but I suggest that you should begin going to church and asking God to deliver you from all evil. You need deliverance because you believe in the nastiness people have told you and you will never be happy until you stop believing that you are 'tied' to this man. So you need to ask God's children for help. I am taking the time to ask Christian people to pray for you so you will get freedom from this man and stop believing that you are 'tied' to him. I am also sure that there are people who have clothes for boys who would be wi lling to h elp you and those who are, I suggest that they bring the items to the First Baptist Church on a Tuesday or Wednesday between 10 a.m. to 3 p.m. I should make a further suggestion. Please take this man to court for child support and tell the magistrate the truth. Don't allow anyone to discourage you from doing so.


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