I find morning sex a bother

May 17, 2021

Dear Pastor,

I have been married for three years. My husband and I are university graduates and we have just moved out of his parents' home. His parents were good enough to allow us to live in the cottage that is on their property. They used to rent the cottage but, after we got married, they told us to live there. But we did not have to give them any money for it.

We have saved a great deal of money by living there. Sometimes his mother would cook and leave dinner for us. Now we are renting a place on our own. It is $60,000 per month for a two bedroom place and it is not even as nice as the cottage. Paying so much for rent makes me wonder when we will be able to buy a place for ourselves. Don't misunderstand me, I cannot complain because we got a good start from my husband's parents. My husband gets up early in the mornings to exercise. I am not an early riser but when he is up early like 4 or 4:30 in the morning, he wakes me up and tells me 'let's do it'. He likes to have sex early in the morning and most times I want to sleep. But he seems not to understand. He says making love in the morning is like giving him a good boost for the day and, the thing is, my husband will not stop until he gets me to have an orgasm. He tells me that after I am pregnant he will stop doing it so often in the morning. What do you suggest I can do without hurting my husband's feeling when he wants to have sex so early in the morning?

K.P.

Dear K.P.,

I suggest that you offer your husband sex before both of you fall asleep and tell him that this is in place of the morning sex, so he should allow you to sleep right through. Your husband has a lot of energy in the morning and that could be one of the reasons why he loves sex so early. But it would be unwise for you to complain all the time about it. So sometimes you should try your best to enjoy it and try to go back to sleep after both of you have enjoyed the moments together.

Pastor

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