Think my wife is pregnant for ‘Joe’

Dear Pastor,

I am 27 years old and my wife and I have two children together. My wife and I work with government but she spends more time with the children. My wife has started to complain bitterly that I am not spending time at home. She said that she feels that I am ignoring her but I know that I am not ignoring her. I try my best to give her all that she wants. We live in a very comfortable house and my wife drives a very lovely car, but my wife is listening to girls who are not Christians. Some of these girls go wherever they want to go and they do not respect their husbands. I am finding out that my wife is having an affair with one of our co-workers. He calls her late in the night. When I asked her why he should be calling her, she said that they are just friends. Why should ordinary male friends call a married woman 10:30 and 11 o'clock at nights? Isn't that suspicious? Right now, my wife has told me that she might be pregnant. I am not sure that the child she might be carrying is mine. I don't want to be looked upon as a fool and I don't intend to support another man's child. I have good reasons to believe that my wife has gone to bed with this man a number of times. I have been faithful to her and I am not going to stay with her if I can prove that she is a cheater.

P.

Dear P.,

I regret hearing that your marriage is broken down and you suspect that your wife is cheating. You said that she has been complaining that you are ignoring her and not spending enough time with the family. But you have not brought forth any solid reason to prove that your wife has been unfaithful to you. If indeed she is pregnant, why is it that you do not believe that you impregnated her? You said you have good reasons to believe that you are not the person who impregnated her. Well then, who did?

On the other hand, why is your wife's co-worker calling her so late at nights and he knows that she is a married woman? She should have told him to desist from making such calls. I would like to suggest that both of you make an appointment with a family counsellor as soon as possible and that both of you try to save your marriage.

Pastor