Mom wrongly accused of cheating

July 13, 2021

Dear Pastor,

I am writing to you for some help. My parents are planning to separate. They have been together for 20 years, but their relationship is falling apart. My mother is a very hard-working woman. She does any job to her full capabilities. She does not have any subjects, but she is the one who raised my brothers, my baby sister and me.

My siblings and I are currently homeless because my father is putting my mother out, and my siblings and I have decided to go with our mother. My sister is 14 years old and my baby brother is three years old. I am 18 years old. My other brother is 20 years old. He got a work last month and he is trying to adjust in his new job. We are trying to find a house that we could rent to accommodate all of us.

We are poor. I am currently attending university, and I cannot stand to see my mother hurting. She has been wrongly accused of cheating by my father. I have never seen my mother cheat on my father. She is very faithful to him. They have been married for about five years and she has tried her best to cope. She is a vendor, who owns a small cart from which she does her business. She sells snacks, and my sister and brother help her out whenever they can, but lately I feel that I am useless.

I have attained six Caribbean Secondary Education Certificate and two City and Guilds passes. I am employed. I do not know what to do. My mother is a Christian. She always prays to God, but the stress is getting to her and she is thinking of committing suicide. I have been trying to encourage her, but I don't know what else to do.


Dear T.,

Your father is behaving like he does not care for your mother any more. Frankly, he is behaving like a fool. For 20 years he has been with your mother, and together they have four children. This is not the time for him to act like an idiot. You are in university and one brother is working, and your mother continues to work very hard. She needs to be commended for her hard work and for keeping the family together.

I hope your mother will not walk away and leave everything in that house with your father. She should get half of what they own in that house. Your father is behaving as if he has lost his senses, so please continue to stand with your mother. You and your 20-year-old brother should encourage your mother to go and see a lawyer who will give her the proper guidance she needs. If she has to leave, she should not leave empty-handed, that is what I am saying. Then, she should see to it that she gets maintenance for your young sister and brother.

Now, having said the above, I am not suggesting that you hate your father, I am only suggesting that you help your mother receive justice. My prayers are with you all. Continue to study hard and to do your very best at university. Don't stop attending school, and encourage your mother to serve the Lord. I will be praying for you.


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