Elderly man rocked my world

Dear Pastor,

It is a long time I have not called you on your radio show. I spent most of my time in the United States of America with my children and grandchildren.

I know that you would be surprised to hear that I am planning to get married again. I have met a man who lost his wife three years ago. When he told me that he was interested in me, I laughed at him. However, he did not take no for an answer. He told my daughter that he loves me, and she, too, laughed at him. She told him that he would have to come good, because she knows that I was not interested in getting married again.

My husband died more than five years ago and I had not looked at another man. My children can support me, and I get a little pension, so I am satisfied. I don't want any man to come and harass my body.

This man has his own house, but his children don't pay him any attention. He is always saying that he wished his children were like mine. He told me that he saw another woman who he liked, but all she wanted from him was his money. I have never asked him for any money or to buy me anything. I was never that type of woman. I am satisfied with what my children give to me.

This man's parents were Jamaicans, but his relatives in Jamaica sold his parents' property many years ago. The house that he has in America is debt-free. He wants me to take him to Jamaica. He is 70 years old, but he looks younger than his age. He receives a good pension, and we can live comfortably on his pension and his social security.

I am 62 and I am in good health, but this man suffers from high blood pressure, which is under control. Do you believe I should marry again? Sometimes I think that I should, and at another time I feel afraid. One of my daughters said all this man wants is good care, but he needs something else.

One Saturday evening both of us went out, and when I thought the man would take me home, he said it was too early; so I ended up at his house. The man enticed me to go to bed with him. I had not done that thing for a long time, but he was able to take me on a long journey. I was shocked. This man keeps his place tidy. He does his own laundry and his own cooking. He said when we get married he will continue to cook, but I would have to do the laundry. I need your advice; should I get married again? Is it not risky to marry someone who suffers from high blood pressure? I would love to hear from you.

I don't want my children to know that I wrote to you for advice.

M