Sexy mistakes made in 2015?

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December 29, 2015

With only a few days left in 2015, some of us started the year in happy relationships, some of us were single and some of us were just ready to give up on that bad relationship all together.

Whether you are still in that relationship, if you were to review the last 12 months, what are some of the mistakes you made? Could you have made a different choice that will bring a different outcome? Are you happy with your current relationship status? Let's take a look at some of the mistakes that people make in their relationships, and see how they may have affected their lives:

n Not knowing when to let go

Not all relationships are built to last forever, some are short term and should be treated as such. Some persons feel like failures if a relationship ends 'too quickly', so they try to suffer through all the negative experiences that they have and stay in that union. This situation is not healthy for any of the parties involved. Sometimes the best decision is to walk away, and learn from the experience.

n Neglecting your sexy

We live in a very visual world where we see people doing a lot to stay in shape. There are others that, because of lifestyle choices, have let themselves go. They gain weight, stop making an effort to put themselves together, or even the way they carry themselves has fallen. With a busy lifestyle, it can be difficult to take the time to spend working on themselves, but it is necessary. Apart from the confidence boost, getting in shape has major health benefits, and overall looks and feels better.

n Not expressing your true feelings

Whenever I hear someone say "relationships are built on compromise", I cringe because that is not a good foundation on which to base a happy relationship. If you are constantly compromising in your relationship, then that means our needs are not being met. Instead, stop expecting your partner to know what you want, speak up and be clear. Your needs cannot be met if you do not express your desires.

n Giving too much of your self

We are discouraged from being 'selfish' and to be more 'giving' instead, but when the giving is only on one end of the relationship, the 'giver' tends to feel taken for

granted. Reciprocity is important on relationships - both parties want to feel wanted and catered to. But when it is one-sided, that is not a formula for a happy, respectful union.

n Not having sex with that person

In a new relationship, introducing sex is not always seamless. Sometimes, we wait too long and lose the moment, and the relationship becomes something else. Women are encouraged to hold out and wait for the man to 'earn' the sex. Personally, I think you should make that decision based on your own compass. If it feels good and you want to, I don't have any issues if you decide to go for it. Just be sure that it's your choice and you enjoy it.

n Having sex with that person

Sometimes we jump into sex with some people too quickly. You should at least be sober and conscious before you decide to get physical with someone. I have heard so many tales of drunken debauchery that the individuals involved can't even remember. The worst part is, you can't take it back. So ensure that when you have sex with someone, it's a conscious choice that you are making.

New Year 's Day is my favourite day of the year because it represents a renewal, an opportunity to start over, do a better job this time. So if you are not where you want to be with your relationship, it's a perfect opportunity to try again. Regardless, if you are single or not, always remember that your happiness is your responsibility, and you should take it seriously. Here is to a very sexy 2016!

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