Are you sexually satisfied?
When I ask people about sex, I get different reactions - from the slight shy smile of someone who's self- conscious and a little embarrassed, to the bold declarations of another person who feels like they know exactly what they are about sexually.
For most persons, sex is about intercourse and positions, but there is so much more to being sexually satisfied than that.
So, are you sexually satisfied? What does it mean to be sexually satisfied? Is your partner sexually satisfied with you? These are some of the questions we should be asking if we want to get the most out of our sexual exploits.
Sexual satisfaction is achieved when both partners are in tune with each other's needs and are willing to fulfil them. Here are some of the things you can do to achieve sexual satisfaction:
- Ask for what you want.
Expressing your desires is integral to the success of your relationship. Don't expect your partner to read your mind and figure out what you want. The best way to get your needs met is to ask.
• Ask for feedback.
Find out what your partner thinks about your performance. Ask about desires and turn-offs. This is a great opportunity to learn more about each other and adjust as required.
• Try something taboo.
There are many things that are considered taboo without any real reason behind it. Decide with your partner what to try, but it's good to challenge some of these taboo activities. Think about it this way. Oral sex was very taboo, but now it seems to be on everyone's lips. Plus having the experience together will bring you closer as a couple.
• Read erotic books together.
Getting lost in a sexy story together is a great foreplay exercise, plus you can try some of the activities in the book together. Reading together also helps to build your intimacy.
• Learn new things together, like tantric sex and pole dancing.
Any opportunity to learn something new as a couple is always good. Having the experience can help you grow, and it's something fun you can share. Plus you get some new sexy skills.
It is a fact that people who are sexually satisfied are healthier and happier than those who are not. So be an active participant in your sex life.
Your relationship and your overall happiness will benefit. Remember that communication is important to the success of every relationship as you ensure that you and your partner are on the same page.
Have fun, and stay sexy.