Let Valentine's Day inspire you to show love

February 06, 2018

What does it mean when someone says, "I love you"? We hear this statement a lot in entertainment - from movies to music - and we see people declare their love.

Of course, there are different types of love, but for the purpose of this conversation, I'll address romantic love. With Valentine's Day around the corner, many persons in relationships are getting ready to face the dreaded day of love.

Unfortunately, this time of year can also be a source of conflict for these relationships because of the expectations that couples place on each other.

Let me get back to the question: What does it mean when someone says, "I love you"?

In a young relationship, there is usually a specific point when the couple will tell each other how they feel, and the magic words are usually spoken. This point in the relationship is also when the couple decides to make a commitment to each other.


Demonstration of love


For some individuals, saying the words is not important, because they're just words. They need a demonstration of love, not a declaration. For these people, hearing those three words can be met with some sceptism.

On the other hand, saying 'I love you' is an important rite of passage for some relationships. So is it more important to say 'I love you' or to demonstrate the love? How do you show your love?

According to the book The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman, there are generally five ways that people express their love words of affirmation, receiving gifts, physical touch, quality time, and acts of service. One of the challenges that many couples face is figuring out their partner's love language.

Take Valentine's Day, for example. If one person in the relationship's love language is receiving gifts, then the expectation for this holiday will be very high. Having a partner who understands that will be integral to that person's happiness on Valentine's Day.

Relationships have ended because of the way special occasions like Valentine's Day are handled. There are many sceptics who think that celebrating this holiday is a waste of time since showing love should happen every day and not just on Valentine's day.

Personally, I think that while it would be nice to be treated special every day, it doesn't actually happen like that. So a day like Valentine's Day is a great opportunity to be a little nicer to each other, generally pause as a couple, and get back into each other.

On a final note: You don't have to wait for special occasions to do something special as a couple use Valentine's Day as inspiration to do extraordinary things for each other on the other regular days.

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