My girlfriend refuses sex during the day


January 22, 2016

Dear Pastor,

I am in my late 20s and have a girlfriend. We have sex when she comes to my place. If she is with me during the day, she does not allow me to make love to her. I told her we should shower

together, but she says no. I tried to remove her shirt one day and she threatened me. She was so

serious, Pastor. She went into her bag, pulled out a pair of scissors and said she would stab me.

She is nice, but she can be arrogant at times. At nights, if I want to have sex with her, all the lights have to be off. Not even the television should be on. I have never seen her naked.

I wonder what is the problem. I run my hand over her body in the dark to see if she is normal. I don't know, for sure, if there is any flaw, but I don't see anything outside the ordinary. I told her I cannot befriend a woman who will not allow me to see her body. She says when the time comes I will see. When I met her, she was not a virgin, so I don't know what is the problem. Do you believe something is wrong with her? I am waiting for your advice.


Dear G.J.,

I don't know why you are

worried about this woman. She does not want you to see her nakedness. Why should that be a problem? It is her body. If she wanted to expose it to you, she would have. Perhaps she believes if she exposes herself, there will be nothing for you to see after you are married. Are you planning to marry this woman? Perhaps you may ask her to go to the doctor for a check-up, and ask the doctor to give you a letter confirming everything is alright with her. Discuss what I have said with her.


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