My fiance can't find my G-Spot

April 05, 2016

Dear Pastor,

I am having a problem and I would like you to help me. I cannot trust anybody at my church to tell my problems to. I have been reading your column before I was a teenager and now I am 21 years old and about to be married. My wedding is planned for the 30th of April. My fiance does not attend the same church, but now that we are planning to get married we spend more time together and we are having sex. He is seven years older than I am. He convinced me to give up my virginity before my wedding day because he said he did not want to see blood on our wedding night, so I agreed. My fiance is teaching me to do all the positions, I don't feel embarrassed anymore. He said he can't find my G- spot, so I am wondering if something is wrong with me.

My fiance was not always a Christian, but he is really one now. He has one son from his previous relationship before he was a Christian. He stopped having sex when he became a Christian, but since we are getting married, he is sexually active again. Oh pastor, don't condemn us. Sometimes, I tell him we should never have started to have sex. We agree we would stop two weeks before our wedding and give ourselves a break. Please tell me about the G-spot.


Dear Engaged,

I can answer your question about the G-spot by quoting sex therapists and doctors who have done special studies about these things. However, I would have to go into details, and because so many children read my column, I must restrict myself from saying certain things. To explain in detail what is meant by the G-spot would prompt children to ask many questions and they may even attempt to put what I may say to practice. Therefore, I would suggest that your fiance and you purchase books and study this matter together.

You know by now that the G-spot is something not easily found and some females question whether the G-spot is real.

"Don't beat yourself up if you're having problems finding your girl's G-spot - chances are, she's still searching for it, too. When British researchers asked 1,800 women if they believed they had a G-spot, only 56 per cent said yes. Ever since a German researcher named Grafenberg identified the elusive erogenous zone back in the 1940s, the G-spot has been a hot topic among sex scientists - mainly because so many aren't sure it's a real thing. A 2012 research review on the subject came to the following, inconclusive conclusion: There's not much anatomical proof that each and every woman has a G-spot, but anecdotal evidence and 'reliable reports' say there is a specific area inside the vagina that, when stimulated, may help some women reach orgasm".

Your fiance and your have decided to have premarital sex. You gave up your virginity to please him. I hope that he will never disappoint you. I have gotten letters similar to yours in the past. Some men seem not willing to wait until they are married to have sex with their women. I can only wish both of you the best in life.


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