TELL ME PASTOR: I'm HIV positive and seeking a husband


November 07, 2016

Dear Pastor,

I am asking you for some help. I am in my 50s and facing some problems in my life. It started when I got called to go on the hotel programme in 2001. That is when I found out that I am HIV-positive.

Let me tell you about myself. I do not have a job. I am single and I do not have anywhere to live. I go to the doctor every three months. I am on medication. I do not look ill and I need somewhere to live. I can do hotel work or a live-out job or day's work.

I am looking for a nice, loving husband. Right now, I am living with one of my daughters who needs help herself, but she tries to help me whenever she can. So, please, if anyone reads this letter and is willing to help, I will be glad.

May God bless you, pastor, and thanks.


Dear A.,

Thank you for writing. I am very glad to hear from you. Although you are not well, you are willing to work and to help yourself. You seem to be an intelligent woman. I say that because you go to the doctor regularly, you are following his/her advice and you are also taking your medications.

Some people who are HIV-positive do not follow their doctor's advice and are not on their medications. So I commend you for doing the right thing.

You did not say how you became infected. But I hope that the person who passed that on to you is also on medication. You have made three requests. You need a job and you mentioned the type of jobs you can do. Perhaps you should register with an employment agency to get a job as a day's worker or you may consider putting an ad in The Gleaner with your number.

I am glad that one of your daughter is trying her best to help you. Give God thanks for that. If you were to get a job, you will be able to rent a little room and ease the pressure off your daughter, so to speak. So I appeal to anyone who needs someone to do day's work or to work as a office attendant to give me a call.

The third request you made is that you would like to get a husband. That is a touchy situation considering your situation. It is not difficult to get a man, if you just want to play around. You do not want to play around, I am sure. You want a man who would marry you, but you understand your situation; therefore, you must discuss that with your doctor.

Take good care of yourself and do the best you can. Read your Bible every day, pray and go to church. Let me hear from you again.


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