Refusing to divorce my wife after 19 years in prison

February 01, 2017

Dear Pastor,

I greet you in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ. I have always read THE STAR with your letters. I love to read them. Sometimes I laugh and sometimes I get upset at how things worked out for others.

I am 55 years old. I got married in 1991. I went to prison in 1996. My wife is 63 years old. She visited me up until 2008. We always talked on the phone. I can call her, but she can’t call me. That is how the system is set up in prison. When I call her she answers the phone, but she doesn’t want to talk to me even if I tell her to talk to me. I love her. She doesn’t answer to that. All she says is that I will never find another woman like her.

She told me back then that she wanted back her name. I asked her why and she said that she just wanted it back. She also said that she needed a divorce. This happened in 2009. I never received anything in the mail up until now. I don’t know what is going on with her. I think my wife doesn’t want me. Please help me with this matter.

My mother said that my wife is a wicked woman. My brother doesn’t like her. My family doesn’t like her, but I was standing with the Word of God. There is a man living in her house. She says that it is her nephew, her sister’s son. I told her whenever I call, I would like to speak to him. She told me that “her nephew” doesn’t want to speak to me.

I have another problem which concerns my big brother. He has been married for 21 years. He claims that his wife is seeing someone else and that the person came into his house and had a relationship with his wife. I tried to talk to him to stay with his wife because there is a lot to lose. But he still doesn’t want to stay with his wife. He is seeing a 27-year-old woman and he is 57 years old. I talked to his wife and she says that it is not true. Help me with this also.

This is all I have to say for now. I hope to hear from you soon.

Dear E.T
First of all, let me talk about your situation. You have been in prison for a long time. Your wife has visited you for how many years. She has now asked you for a divorce. She has her reasons. You have stated that some of your relatives don’t like your wife. I am sure she is aware of that. She has been sending you a message by not visiting you anymore, and she has told you that she wants back her name. Perhaps she means she eagerly wants her divorce.

You give the impression that you believe that the man who is living at the house is not her nephew, but her man. Whether that is so or not, it would help your psyche to consent and free her up so that she can go and do whatever she wants to do. Trying to hold on to her legally would not help you either.

Concerning your brother and his relationship, keep out of his business.

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