I want to end this relationship


February 09, 2017

D ear Pastor

I am 18 years old. I have nine CXC subjects and I'm currently doing my unit two at an institution in Kingston.

I recently met a man when I was walking on the road. He was driving pass and he stopped and we exchanged numbers. We started to text each other and he told me he had a son.

He is 29 years old and he works in Kingston. We have been talking for three months. He asked me on a date and I agreed.

When he picked me up at my house he took me to a restaurant and we talked and laughed. I could feel the connection between us.

He was the type of man to have a conversation with a woman without anything sexual being brought up. I really enjoyed myself and he did too.

He brought me home and we kissed. After that night he would take me to school when he's not busy.

About a week ago he told me that he has a girlfriend and that I shouldn't worry about her because he loves me and I don't have to worry about anything.

I'm a very smart girl and I know that this man doesn't mean me any good and I know he would never leave his girlfriend for me.

He still texts me even though I don't reply so I blocked him. He used a different phone to call me and I didn't know it was him so I answered.

He kept telling me that he misses me and that he doesn't want to lose me and he and his girl are not on good terms and they are on the verge of breaking up.

I really like him but I don't want to continue this relationship. What should I do?


Dear S.W.

This relationship started by a man seeing you on the road and having a chat with you. Evidently, you entertained him too long and both of you exchanged telephone numbers.

What he did recently was good. He told you that he had his girlfriend. Now I don't know how deep the relationship got before he informed you that he had his girlfriend before he got you to love him.

Some men don't tell the truth until they have got what they want (sex) from the new girl.

You said that this man is not going to leave his girlfriend for you. But now he is saying that he and his girlfriend are on the verge of breaking up.

So you are intelligent enough to have arrived at the correct conclusion. The man is a liar. So although it might be very hard to walk away from him, it is the best thing for you to do before this relationship gets any further.

You are a bright young woman. You are wise and you know that you are going to want a man you can call your own and this man is not your own.

Tell him that it must come to an end. That is why he continues to harass you. He does not want to lose you. Expect him to say that both of you can continue to be friends.

Tell him that won't be wise although it is going to be very difficult for you; you are going to try to live as if you never knew him. Don't hate him but stay far from him.

Wish him and his girlfriend well but walk away.


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