Thinking about leaving my man for my ex


February 15, 2017

Dear Pastor,

I enjoy reading your column in the newspaper. I used to have a boyfriend. He's a policeman. He was very good to me. He was a little jealous, but so was I. That is part of the reason why we broke up, but I still have feelings for him and the feelings are getting stronger because I'm working in an area where he is assigned, and every time I see him, my heart skips a beat. He is so well dressed. He recently told me that he still loves me. The only thing I said to him was that it was too late. But, Pastor, in my heart I know that I still love him.

I have another boyfriend now. He is very progressive. He has his own home, a good job and a good education, but this nagging feeling for this policeman is not going away.

The question I want to ask you is: why? Could you help me? I'm looking forward to hearing from you. Nuff respect, Pastor. Keep up the good work.


Dear A.R.,

You might have heard that true love never dies. That is what many people believe. This policeman treated you well and both of you were young and failed to handle your jealousy in a professional manner. There must be feelings in love, but feelings are not the only criteria. In fact, feelings can be very dangerous. Some people have stayed together because of feelings and ended up making a wreck of themselves. You and this man could have tested the water by seeing a professional but you didn't. You guys went your separate ways. And my suggestion right now is to remain where you are. Do not become entangled with this man again.

You met another guy, and the guy is doing well and you love him. Allow your present relationship to grow. Your old boyfriend would just complicate everything. So whenever you see him, say hi and move on, but nothing else. I wish you well.


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