Can't stop being the side chick


February 20, 2017

Dear Pastor,

I want to know whether it is true that a man can love two women at the same time.

I am 23 years old and I have a child for a man, but he is married. I knew this man was married, but I love him and I decided to take a chance with him because he told me that he was leaving his wife and that he was in love with me.

After I got pregnant and had the baby, I saw him less and less. Then he told me that he and his wife were trying to work on their relationship.

I asked him how he could do such a thing to me. He said he did not plan to stay with his wife, but because of their two children and their house, they have decided to try to make things work.

He told me that he will always love me. I see him at least twice a week and he has never failed to support his child. He tells me that he loves me, but he loves his wife also. He loves the two of us.

Pastor, is it possible for a man to love two women at the same time. He doesn't want me to move on.

I know it is going to be hard, but I don't want to turn an old maid. I want to get married, but the thing is, I love this man so much that even if I am married to someone else, I believe that I would cheat.

I still enjoy having sex with my child's father. I have never had another man in my life since I met him. What do you have to say, Pastor?


Dear N.T.,

You are not speaking as an intelligent woman. You are not wise. A wise woman would have given up on this man a long time ago.

You need to go back to school and get yourself an education and carve out a future for yourself and one that will help to support your child.

It is not just the sex that you love. It is the man's money. You can continue to allow yourself to be used by this man with his fancy talk or you can decide to consider what has happened to you as a mistake and allow this man to support his child only, but have nothing else to do with him.

By the way, a man can love many women at the same time, but not on the same degree. Remember, you are 23 years old. You can either waste your life or you can try to improve your life.

No counsellor would be able to help you if you seek to blame others for your failure. This man loves to know that he can have two women in his life, one at home and a side chick. The choice is yours.


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