In love with my two boyfriends


January 07, 2019

Dear Pastor,

This is the first time I am writing to you, but I am a regular reader of your column. I am 20 years old, and I have two boyfriends. I love the both of them. Both of them are handsome. I know I should only have one, but the one I would choose is not the one my relatives like.

My mother is a higgler, and the one she likes takes her goods to the market and picks her up whenever she calls him. She doesn't know that the other guy and I are friends, but he is the one who took my virginity. He has a car, but it is down now. He does not have the money to insure it, and I cannot help him. He is brighter than the other fellow.

I had sex with both of them, but both of them used the condom. So, I am not worried about getting pregnant. Whenever the one my mother likes and I are not talking, my mother always gets involved by asking me what is wrong. Sometimes I don't talk to him for weeks, so I can get more time to spend with the other guy.

I work in a store, and I give money to the other guy. I am trying to save a little to help him get his vehicle back on the road. The one whose car is working asked me if I am giving him 'bun'. I asked him why he asked me that, and he said that it is because of the way he sees me moving. I would like to go back to school, but I don't want the one who transports my mother to go give me money to go to school.

Tell me what you think.


Dear T.E.,

I know you do not mean to confuse me, but in the beginning of your letter, you said you love these two guys equally, but that is surely not true. It seems to me that you love the man whose car is not in operation more that the one who transports your mother to and from the market. And, you spend more time with him whenever it is possible. You also give him your money, so definitely he means more to you than the other guy.

So, think about this matter carefully. You know you are fooling yourself when you say that the love you have for these guys is shared equally. I suggest also that you weigh the matter carefully, and go for the one you love more.


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