Tired of sleeping with my brother's wife


July 19, 2018

Dear Pastor,

I am 35 years old, and I have a confession to make. I have been having a sexual relationship with my brother's wife. I am married, but my wife is studying, and whenever I want to have sex, she is always tired. My brother's wife and I are very close, and one day I told her about my situation at home. It was at that time she told me that my brother isn't studying but they hardly have sex because he has a problem.

He cannot have a strong erection. She told me that she is often tempted to go out and find a man. I told her that she should not go out. She said that whenever she is horny she would call on me since I don't want her to go out. We laughed about it.

In December of last year, around Christmas time, she called me and asked me to drop her at a party. My brother was at another place. I told her to inform my brother and then I would pick her up. I picked her up and took her to the party. I told her that if she could not get a ride home, she should call me back. She called me at about 1:30 in the morning, and said the party was over and she was calling her husband but he was not answering. I picked her up and she started to touch me up in the car. She begged me to have sex with her and I complied. It has happened three times since.

My brother and I are very close, and we have business together and we are always talking. But his wife is not leaving me alone. So I am asking for your professional advice. How do I deal with this?


Dear N.S.,

I wish I could put all the blame on this woman, but I can't. You are just as responsible for what has happened. In fact, I want to say to you that you are iniquitous. You can try to give the impression as much as you want how terrible your sister-in-law is, but if you did not want to have an affair with her, it would not have happened. She is your brother's wife, and you should have resisted her.

I know some people would say that you have not done anything wrong. She is the one who offered herself to you, but you could have rejected her. You are a wicked man. Having sex with your brother's wife is shameful, and you write as if this thing is still going on. You should tell this woman no more of that, and whenever she asks you to take her anywhere, you should tell her no. In fact, you should encourage her to tell her husband to work with a doctor.

You cannot tell your brother what has happened between you and his wife. If you were to do so, you may kill him, but you can keep away from her and encourage her to work with her husband.


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