He made up stories because we didn't have sex


August 18, 2018
Divorced couple

Dear Pastor,

I am 31 years old. When I was a child, my parents always encouraged me to behave like a lady and get a good education. After leaving high school, I went to teachers' college. I always wanted to be a teacher. Then, I went to university. I met a young man who was three years younger than me. On the very first day I met him, he was interested in one thing, and that was to have sex with me. I did not allow him to, so we broke up. But he scandalised my name, and he told all my friends terrible things about me.

One day, I asked him why he was scandalising my name like that and what I had done to him. He said that I disrespected him because I was the first woman he had ever dated who was unable to 'wet his whistle'. I was so unhappy for a while, but then, I met another man. I visited the church that he attends, and we dated for one year and are now happily married.

He is a public figure. He says that he is sorry he didn't meet me before. I am now pregnant. I am the luckiest girl in the world. And he is hoping that after giving birth to our first child, I will get pregnant again because we have to catch up on time.

Pastor, thank you, and keep up your good work.


Dear P.S.,

I am glad that you are happy. This man who wanted to use you did not succeed. You were a wise woman. Therefore, you have nothing to be ashamed of. I hope that you have a safe delivery and that you and your husband will have another baby. And perhaps you may even seek a third child.


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