I slept with two men for money


September 21, 2018

Dear Pastor,

I am 20 years old and my boyfriend and I are living together. he went away for a month and the very first week he left, I lost my job.

He left me $60,000 to pay the rent and light and to contribute to water. A friend of mine was getting married and she invited me to be in the bridal party.

But she said she didn't have any money to buy my outfit. So I 'borrowed' some of my boyfriend's money.

Then my father got into trouble with the law and we (his children) had to put money together to pay the lawyer to get him out of jail.

The rent was due and my boyfriend asked me about it; I told him not to worry.

I have an old school friend who always liked me. He called me and asked me how I was doing.

I invited him over and I told him that I was broke and I needed some money.

I told him needed $20,000. He told me that was not a problem, he could let me have it.

We were there fooling around and he asked me for sex. I resisted and he said that he was willing to give me money so how come I was not willing to give him 'just a little piece'?

Tears came to my eyes because I had never cheated on my boyfriend before. That man had sex with me for over an hour.

When he was leaving, he gave me $9,000 and told me that I should come to his workplace the following day for the rest of the money.

So I went to his workplace and he gave me $11,000, plus $1,000 to buy lunch. I was still short on my rent.

My brother-in-law always liked me and I called him and told him that I was broke.

He told me that he could loan me $10,000, but I would have to pay him back because the money was for the children to go back to school. I agreed.

When he came by with the money, he stood at the door and asked if I was not going to invite him in.

I did and that was the worst thing I could have done. He told me that my breasts looked firmer than my sister's. I tried to run him away.

I told him to give me the money. He hugged me and kissed me. I tried to push him away but I wasn't able to do so. I gave up and he took what he wanted from me.

So I had sex with two different men, but my brother-in-law is still expecting me to pay him back his money.

My boyfriend will soon be back and the good news is that I have just got another job, so I would not have to look to any of these men for money.


Dear R.L.,

I am not here to condemn you. I believe that the love you had for your father has put you in a very bad situation.

But you didn't have to attend the wedding. You could have told her that you were not in a good position to buy yourself an outfit. You made a mistake by using part of the money your boyfriend left with you to pay the rent and do other things.

You did not say what kind of trouble your father got himself into. But as a loving daughter, you played your role in helping him to get out of trouble.

What you did with your friend is not right.

But many women have been in similar situations and were willing to have sex with men as payment for what they owed these men.

I think what you should have done instead was to call your boyfriend and tell him the situation with your father and ask him whether he could allow you to use a portion of the money he left to help him get out of trouble.

Concerning your brother-in-law, he is just a wicked guy. You borrowed his money, therefore you are under obligation to pay him back.

I am glad that you have got another job, so as soon as you are able to, let him have his money.


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