I had a one-night stand at a wedding


January 05, 2019

Dear Pastor,

In 2016, I went to Jamaica for a wedding. I was asked to be the best man at this wedding. The groom and I were in college, and when he asked me to be his best man, I could not turn him down. During the wedding I could not take my eyes off one of the bridesmaid. She was one of his cousins. By the time the dinner was served, I slipped a note to her and asked her for a date. She consented, and later that night I had the most enjoyable evening I have had in a long time.

This girl had the most beautiful body, beautiful breasts and lovely butt, etc. She did not have children. There is only one drawback -- she had a boyfriend. I asked why he was not at the wedding, and she said he was off the island.

To cut a long story, by the time it was midnight I was in bed with her, and it did not take me long to realise that she was not a novist. At one point I could not keep up with her, and as she did her stuff to me, I said in my heart: "I could never marry you." And I reminded myself that a man should not judge a book by its cover. All this girl had was physical beauty, but nothing more.

Before we had sex, she asked me if I would marry her and take her to America. I told her yes. But after getting to know her, my mind was changed because I realised that she was a professional and in a different way and that she had gone with many men before I met her. She had more than just ordinary experiences. During our lovemaking she wanted to know how I was feeling. I never had any problem. It was not a problem to get her to strip.

We spent all night together, and her relatives knew that she was with me. I bid her goodbye after spending two days with her and assuring her that she was the sexiest woman I have ever met and that I will be back to see her. When I got back to America I called her and every day we communicated. Then one day I broke the news to her. I told her that she should continue the relationship with her boyfriend because I had my children's mother and she is depending on me. She told me that she was expecting something like that from me because she sensed that I am a player. I am not a player, and I don't have children. I only told her so to get rid of her.

This girl got US$2,500 out of me. While we were having our fling she kept her boyfriend. Do you think I did the right thing by leaving her? She told me anytime I changed my mind she will be ready for me. What do you think of this woman?


Dear T.H,

I know for sure that all Jamaican women are not as easy to get as the woman with whom you got involved. You met a physically beautiful woman. She is the cousin of your friend whose wedding you attended, but she is loose. You may not realise it, but this woman saw you as a good catch for her to get to America. She has her boyfriend, but she was willing to get down with you in every way for you to help her.

You are fortunate that the she only cost you US$2,500. One could say that she is not very smart. Some girls would have gotten much more out of you. So you have written to me to tell me about the experience you had with this Jamaican woman. You think she is bad, but how would you describe yourself?

You are not a good man. No, not at all. You and this woman are in the same boat. Neither should condemn the other. I don't think that this woman believes anything you said about your children's mother. I repeat, she was trying a thing and it didn't work. By now you realise that this girl is smarter than you.


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