I impregnated my wife's cousin


February 27, 2017

Dear Pastor,

I am 70 years old. I have been married for 40 years. I have something resting on my conscience. I had an affair many years ago with one of my wife's cousins and she became pregnant. She is from a middle-class family, so her parents sent her away. She had the baby abroad. It was a girl child.

Five years passed and she came back to Jamaica to visit, but not with the child. To this day, her relatives do not know that I am the true father of the child. She told them that she got pregnant by her boyfriend and they believed her.

That girl is now married, and Pastor, sometimes I feel so sad because I would have loved to have my daughter around me. I have never told my wife that I was the one who got her cousin pregnant.

Do you think it would cause a big problem in the family if I should disclose that I was the one who got her pregnant, or should I just leave it alone?


Dear O.P,

It seems to me that you should go to your grave with your mouth shut. You were silent when you had the affair with your wife's cousin and you got her pregnant. You encouraged her to lie about who got her pregnant. These many years have rolled by and it is on your mind. I know that you are suffering from a sense of guilt, but talk to God about this guilt. And if you want you and your wife to get along, keep your mouth shut. That's the way I see it.


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