Afraid to tell dad I was abused


July 16, 2018

Dear Pastor,

I write to you about a current situation I am in. I guess no father would like to know his daughter has been sexually abused. I wish to tell my father that I was abused, but my father isn't a person I can sit and talk with. My father is a madman. He doesn't do things the right way.

Pastor, I have also seen changes in myself. I get depressed often. I don't talk. I hate people and hate being around them. I hate school. I stay to myself all the time because I feel so ashamed. I cry a lot. I wish someone knew what I am going through or understand how I feel without my telling them. I don't even have a friend.

Even though my relatives are around me, I can't talk to them about these things; I break down. I hate talking about my abuse. I don't know what to do.


Dear S.S.,

I think you are trying to say that you were sexually abused, but your father and other members of the family are not aware of it. You are afraid to talk to your father because you do not know how he would react. I believe that is what you mean when you say he is a madman.

You should not keep what happened to you as a secret. You did not receive professional help. You needed to undergo therapy and it is not too late for you to receive treatment. Therefore, I suggest that you report the matter to the police as well as someone in the family, and ask them to help you get the help that you need.

I have sent you a text and I hope you would respond to it. I am quite prepared to assist you, but I need more information. You talk about your depression and I want you to know that the things that you have mentioned in your letter to me are the direct results of your abuse. I hope you will contact me again very, very early. In the meantime, I will be praying for you. God bless you.


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