Three friends pregnant for the same man

Dear Pastor,

Special good day to you. I have been reading your column and I have gained knowledge from it. I wish I had known what I know now when I was growing up and attending high school.

I am 18 years old and I am pregnant. Two of my girlfriends are also pregnant for the same guy. He is very proud of it. All three of us had sex with him. He was very friendly with us.

He had access to his father's car. When he didn't drive his father's car, he drove another car and told us that it belonged to his boss. This guy loves to sing. He is very handsome and each of us wanted him.

My parents don't love him at all and they say I must not carry the baby. When I told him that I can't carry the baby, he said I must not destroy his child.

Pastor, I didn't even know that I was pregnant. It is a man who sells by the road side who called me and asked me how come I looked so different. I had missed my period but didn't consider that.

I told my schoolmate that I didn't see my period and she told me that it looked like she was pregnant. When all three of us reasoned together we realised that it is the same guy that got all of us pregnant.

I like this guy to my heart. He was my first boyfriend. He said if we abort the babies, he would let everybody know that we are murderers. I want to do medicine, so I can't carry this baby.

I am writing you for your advice, but I know you are not going to agree with me for aborting my pregnancy, but I still want to know how you feel.

N.S.

Dear N.S.,

I am not prepared to condemn any of you girls. What I am prepared to say is that all three of you are careless.

You are young and you wanted to enjoy life, but you are old enough to know that if you are going to indulge in sexual intercourse, you must protect yourself against pregnancy.

This handsome young man must have the gift of gab to convince all three of you to have unprotected sex with him. He is promiscuous. He doesn't care.

He does not feel ashamed, so right now, he is bragging that he got three girls who are friends pregnant.

I cannot encourage you or your friends to terminate the pregnancy. I do know that although it might be difficult for you, if you were to carry this pregnancy you would be able to pursue your goals in the years ahead.

Your parents might feel disappointed that their loving daughter was careless and allowed herself to get pregnant by a man they are not proud of.

But, tell them you are sorry and that you will learn from your mistake and move on, and eventually make them very proud.

Pastor