My husband is horrible in bed


September 04, 2018
Senior couple

Dear Pastor,

I listen to you every night. I am 50 years old, and to be honest with you, I hardly have sex with my husband. Not that I am a bad wife or I am cheating, but my husband doesn't make me feel like a woman. He doesn't know how to make love and have sex. As soon as I lie down, he is done. I told him that I am tired of that type of behaviour from him, so we should live as brother and sister.

I am a Christian, I don't believe in cheating. So, I will stop having sex at 50. Although I am 50 years old, I look like I am 30. Keep up the good work.


Dear J.,

Lovemaking is an art, and your husband is not too old to learn the art of lovemaking. You know what you need. You know what part of your body he should touch to turn you on. You should guide him. I mean literally take his hands and put it there.

Some men do not know that there is a difference between having sex and making love. Some men are just pushers. And after they discharge, they roll over and fall asleep, while the women are just getting in the mood. You and your husband should buy good books and read together, and put into practice what both of you have read. Foreplay is very important in lovemaking.

Please, don't give up on him.


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