Check Up: Bothered by small penis
'Eric' (not real name) is a 34-year-old man who has a special concern that not many men will talk about. Currently, he doesn't have a girlfriend, as he experienced several problems with his last one.
In short, Eric is concerned that his penis is small, and this is causing him to experience relationship problems with most of his sexual partners (which have been few). At six foot one inch and 'built', he is not a small guy and thinks his penis is small compared to his body size. Eric says this makes him insecure with the ladies he dates when it comes to sex. Eric asks Check Up how he can best deal with his negative feelings towards his penis size and sexual intercourse.
Well, let us look at some statistics. About 45 per cent of men believe they have small penises, while 85 per cent women are quite satisfied with their partner's penis. This says quite a lot, and tends to suggest that more men should stop dwelling on penis size and just enjoy their partners. The average length of a flaccid penis is 3.6 inches, and an average erect penis is 5.17 inches long. Micro-penises do occur, and these are about two inches when erect. This occurs in about one per cent of men.
However, even in this situation, it's not just what you have but what you do with it. At the other end of the spectrum, many women experience difficulties having sexual relations with a man with a very large penis. Frankly, they find sex painful.
Sex should be more than just inserting a penis into a vagina. It involves creative foreplay which brings both fingers and mouth into play. Sex can also involve positions which increase friction and tightness in the woman. Try positions which keep the woman's legs close together.
Women experience two types of orgasm: clitoral orgasm and G-spot orgasms. As the clitoris is outside the vagina and the G-spot is not very far inside the vagina, the size and length of the penis is not very important in pleasing partners with orgasms. Men with smallish penises should just choose sexual positions which optimise their penetration.
Useful sexual positions for the smaller penis would include:
n The doggy position where the male partner enters the vagina from behind. This allows for deeper penetration.
n The woman on top position which allows maximal pressure on the clitoris and also allows the woman to control the angle of penetration which works best for her.
n Legs on shoulders position This allows the male to thrust more deeply while hands are free to play and even further stimulate the female clitoris.
n Try a pillow under the lower back and buttock, which lifts the genital area and penetrate with the lady's legs nearly closed.
Also, the adventurous man could consider the use of sex toys with his partner. This could improve things quite a bit! And of vital importance, you need to appear confident with your lady. Don't doubt your ability to give her sexual pleasure. Being a capable lover does not depend on penis size. Eric can also get some counselling, if needed, for his negative vibes unless he can use this article to 'take heart' and move forward with this important area of his life.
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