Trying to give my man a 'jacket'
I am 19 years old and I have a boyfriend who is living in America. He came to Jamaica to visit his relatives. I live about one mile from his relatives.
One day I was walking on the road and he saw me and stopped. He told me that he liked me, and since then every day we talked.
He asked me if I had a boyfriend and I told him no. Then a few days after I told him that I was not telling him the truth, and that I had a boyfriend, but we could still be friends.
We went out twice and on each occasion we had sex. I am sure he used the condom because I saw when he put it on. But now I am pregnant.
My boyfriend asked me how did I get pregnant and he used the condom. I told him that maybe it broke. He said that that is not possible because he would know.
Pastor, I feel so nervous. I don't know how I am going to face my parents. My boyfriend and I used to talk about marriage all the time and how many children we would like to have. Now, he is accusing me of cheating. I have been telling him that I did not cheat on him, but I don't know what to do.
I am three months pregnant. Abortion is out of the question. My boyfriend is tall. The guy I had sex with is short and of Indian descent.
I am trying to convince him that the child is his. If the child is not his, I hope a miracle would take place in my belly so that the child would turn out to be his and resemble him.
I told the guy that I am pregnant, and since then he hardly calls me. The only thing I have got from him is a cellular phone, sex and a Big Mac.
I am expecting to go to university in September. I don't know how I am going to make it out. Please help me.
I want to assure you that everything will be all right with you. You have made mistakes. Perhaps you got carried away by this American man's accent.
Yes, you have been very careless. You shouldn't have had sex with two different men at the same time. You had your boyfriend, you should have remained faithful to him.
Now you are trying to fool your Jamaican boyfriend by telling him that he was the only man with whom you had sex.
He is reminding you that he used the condom and he would have known if the condom broke. Well, it will not be long before he finds out whether or not you are a liar.
Right now, don't fool yourself. No miracle will take place in your womb. If the child is his, that is it. But if the child is not his, that's it. You have put a stumbling block in your way by becoming pregnant. But after you have given birth, arrangements can be made for the care of the baby for you to attend university.
I suggest that in the meantime you discuss your problems with your mother. Tell her the whole truth. It might be embarrassing for you to do so, but it is advisable to tell her that you were having sex with your boyfriend and the American visitor.
She might curse and carry on, but she will forgive you. Make sure you do not tell her that you know who is responsible for the pregnancy because you do not know.
I wish you well.