I pay for sex when my wife is away


January 20, 2017

Dear Pastor,

I have been reading your column for a long time, and I can't wait to hear you every night on the radio. I have been living alone for a year now because my wife and children are in America.

I am 61 years old and my wife is 50. I did not know that life would be like this for me. This is not what we planned. I am hoping to join her very soon.

I have a female visitor. She comes to see me sometimes, but not often. I can't encourage her to come often because it is costly. And every times she comes, she wants money.

I took early retirement from my job because I am planning to leave. If I follow this woman who is visiting me, I would end up like a pauper. When I know she is coming, I can't leave anything around the house. I have to hide my money.

Right now, she does not know that I am planning to leave. I told her that the relationship is not permanent. She has a son and he is 15 years old. He is a nice boy. I told her that she should let the father take on more responsibility in supporting him. She does not even want the boy to spend time with his father.

She does not know my wife's telephone number, but she is always asking me for it. I think she wants to call her and tell her that we are having an affair. But I have told my wife that I am not a saint, and because she is not here, I am buying sex. I am not buying sex from anybody on the road, but I am buying sex from her and it is costly.

She used to cook for me when she comes to visit me, but I do not let her cook anymore. I had a dream. I dreamt that my mother was warning me about someone putting poison in my food.

I don't believe that this girl would put poison in my food, but I believe that she would do something that will hold me because she does not want me to leave Jamaica.

Every time we have sex I write it down, but she doesn't know. She is behaving as if she owns me. The boy wanted clothes to return to school and I had to provide that.


I am tired of lying to my wife. I told this girl that the house is not mine, and she went and checked it out and found out that I was not telling the truth. Now she wants me to allow her to live in the house for at least a year.

Pastor, can a woman get your house because you have been having sex with her? My wife's name is not in the house, but I can't give my house to a woman just because I am having sex with her. Everything she gives to me, I pay her because I can't do without a woman.


Dear P.L.,

You told your wife that you have not been faithful to her. Whether you have told her in so many words, you have been trying to let her know that you have not be celibate. This girlfriend of yours is going to suck you dry if you are not careful.

She is very smart. When a woman is after your house, you have to be very alert, because she may sweet-talk you and catch you off guard. And you might even sign away your life without realising it.

I am not trying to say that you are stupid, not at all. But men have done crazy things because the sweetness of women have turned them into idiots.

Therefore, you need to be on your guard at all times.

You should end the relationship with this woman now. Stop welcoming her to your home. You know very well that you won't die without sex.

Keep yourself for your wife, and make sure you don't continue to play around and contract diseases, and pass it on to your wife.

I wish you well.


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