Don't know what makes a good woman


February 23, 2017

Dear Pastor,

What is your definition of a good woman? What are the characteristics?


Dear K.D

If you are a believer (Christian) you would recognise that the Bible gives the best definition of a good woman. I suggest therefore that you have a good look at Proverbs 31:10-31.

"An excellent woman [one who is spiritual, capable, intelligent, and virtuous], who is he who can find her? Her value is more precious than jewels and her worth is far above rubies or pearls.

The heart of her husband trusts in her [with secure confidence], and he will have no lack of gain.

She comforts, encourages, and does him only good and not evil all the days of her life.

She looks for wool and flax and works with willing hands in delight.

She is like the merchant ships [abounding with treasure]; she brings her [household's] food from far away.

She rises also while it is still night and gives food to her household and assigns tasks to her maids.

She considers a field before she buys or accepts it [expanding her business prudently]; with her profits she plants fruitful vines in her vineyard.

She equips herself with strength [spiritual, mental, and physical fitness for her God-given task] and makes her arms strong.

She sees that her gain is good; her lamp does not go out, but it burns continually through the night [she is prepared for whatever lies ahead].

She stretches out her hands to the [b]distaff. And her hands hold the spindle [as she spins wool into thread for clothing].

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She opens and extends her hand to the poor. And she reaches out her filled hands to the needy.

She does not fear the snow for her household, For all in her household are clothed in [expensive] scarlet [wool].

She makes for herself coverlets, cushions, and rugs of tapestry. Her clothing is linen, pure and fine, and purple [wool].

Her husband is known in the [city's] gates, when he sits among the elders of the land.

She makes [fine] linen garments and sells them; and supplies sashes to the merchants.

Strength and dignity are her clothing and her position is strong and secure; and she smiles at the future [knowing that she and her family are prepared].

She opens her mouth in [skilful and godly] wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue [giving counsel and instruction].

She looks well to how things go in her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness.

Her children rise up and call her blessed (happy, prosperous, to be admired); her husband also, and he praises her, saying "Many daughters have done nobly, and well [with the strength of character that is steadfast in goodness], but you excel them all."

Charm and grace are deceptive, and [superficial] beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord [reverently worshipping, obeying, serving, and trusting Him with awe-filled respect], she shall be praised."

In addition to what the Bible says about a good woman, we know that a good woman is one who is supportive of her man.

She can cook, keep a good house, help to support her ageing parents, get along well with her in- laws, plan for the future; she is stable, she is balance, she is a team player, she is not greedy, she is not overly jealous and she can be trusted.


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