Marriage misery fuels ‘service’ industry Dissatisfied wives paying big bucks for love on the side

A male sex worker who charges his clients $25,000 an hour, says some men are failing women in the bedroom because they are more concerned about their egos than their partners’ pleasure.

The high-priced escort told THE WEEKEND STAR that his experience servicing both men and women has taught him that sexual satisfaction requires more than physical endowment, with some women knowing exactly what they want but are encountering men unwilling to listen.

“A deh so nuff man lose di race before it even start,” Phil* said. “Dem feel seh once dem have a big h**d dem qualify fi please woman. But size alone nah win no championship. Some man have all di equipment and still cyaan operate di machine,” he said.

The 36-year-old said his entry into the ‘servicing’ industry began years ago after a woman proposed that he become her companion for hire.

“Mi never wake up one morning and seh a dis mi wah do,” he said. “When mi see wah she willing fi spend fi one night mi seh wait deh, woman really a pay dem kinda money deh? From dat, one link turn inna two, and two turn inna regular customer,” he recalled.

Now, Phil said the greatest challenge is not attracting customers but understanding what satisfies them, particularly when women are reluctant to communicate their preferences.

“Nuff woman nuh tell yuh straight. Dem expect yuh fi read dem mind. But mi always seh, mi a hustler, mi nuh obeahman,” he said.

He believes some men sabotage their partners’ sexual satisfaction by refusing to accept instructions, interpreting a woman’s willingness to take control as a challenge to their masculinity.

“Nuff man ego too big fi mek woman tell dem wah fi do inna bed. Dem feel seh dem lose dem manhood if a woman start give instruction,” he reasoned.

Experts say many men miss the mark because they focus on what they think their partners want instead of listening to them. According to the Mayo Clinic Staff, a renowned US-based non-profit medical centre and research institution, open and honest conversations about needs and expectations can play a major role in a woman’s overall satisfaction.

Phil, who claimed to have catered to numerous dissatisfied female clients, including some who are married, said many of his encounters involve more than physical intimacy.

Recalling one experience, he said a married woman booked him for a two-hour session at a cost of $50,000. However, about 45 minutes were spent talking about challenges in her marriage.

“She tell mi seh har husband provide everything financially, but him barely touch har unless him want sex,” Phil recalled. “When we eventually get intimate, she did more interested inna mi a take mi time and listen to her than anything else.”

Afterwards, Phil said the woman told him it had been a long time since she felt genuinely appreciated and heard. While he admitted he found her comments difficult to understand without knowing the full circumstances of her marriage, he said that was the explanation she offered for seeking his company.

Phil said women between 35 and 55 make up the bulk of his clientele, although he also receives bookings from women in their 20s and 60s. According to him, roughly six in every 10 female clients are either married or involved with a partner, while the remainder are single, separated or divorced.

“’Bout 60 per cent a mi bookings come from people weh use mi service already,” he said. “If mi get 10 booking inna one month, seven might come from regular customers and three from new people.”

Drawing on his experiences with clients, the serviceman argued that dissatisfaction in some relationships often stems from poor communication and a lack of attention to a partner’s needs. He was particularly critical of men who, he said, focus more on their own performance than on whether their partners are actually enjoying the experience.

“Plenty men more interested in telling dem friends seh dem good inna bed than finding out if di woman actually enjoy herself,” he said. “Dem rather hear a woman fake up noise than hear har seh, ‘No, a nuh so mi like it.’”