I have a crush on my church brother


January 13, 2017

Dear Pastor,

Good day. I am 16 and I am a Seventh-day Adventist. I am infatuated over my church brother for about three years now. He's 20 years old.

I am going to take CXC next year and I am doing eight subjects. I don't want to tell him because I don't want any distraction. But I really like him and I want to tell him.

I think he likes me, too, because he is always looking at me; and when I see him, he looks away.

I really don't know what to do. I anticipate your response.


Dear C.E.,

What you are experiencing is normal. Therefore, I do not want you to think that it is because you are bad or your thoughts are not centred on Christ, why you are admiring this man.

If he likes you, he is just keeping everything under control, and so should you. You would like him to know how you feel about him, but I don't believe that you should tell him.

If he likes you, he will eventually approach you. But if you were to tell him how much you admire or like him, and that was not in his mind at all, you would be very disappointed and you would wish that you had kept your thoughts to yourself.

Concentrate on your work. You have many years ahead of you. Don't allow anything to come between you and your schoolwork.


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