I often have sex without using a condom because my partner refuses to use one. My problem now is that my partner tested positive for HIV and I tested negative. He is taking treatment and is doing very well health-wise. He still wants to have unprotected sex, saying that if I should get HIV, I would have got it already and, moreover he is in on treatment. Counsellor, I really cannot trust him because he tested negative some years before and we know that he got infected after based on discussion we had. I am now confused and I really don't want to leave him. What do you suggest I do?
Dear Frustrated Wife:
If you cannot persuade your partner to use a condom, then you will want to persuade him to engage in non-penetrative activities with you, where you won't be exposed to sexual fluids or blood. You should take some time to discuss this very important matter with him. If you are unable to get through to your partner, then you may want to seek some professional help. Your partner must know that because he is already infected with HIV does not immune him from other sexually transmitted infections. The final responsibility is yours to protect your body and life.
Remember that if you use a condom every time you have sex, this can reduce your chances of becoming infected with sexually transmitted infections including HIV the virus that causes AIDS.
I am extremely worried because I had a Pap smear test done and my doctor told me that it came back showing that I have abnormal cells. Does that mean I have cancer?
The Pap smear test would not necessarily tell you whether you have cancer. Like your doctor told you, the Pap smear can show that there are abnormal cells in the cervix. You will now need to do further diagnostic tests to determine what caused those abnormal cells and what corrective measures must be used. In most cases, abnormal cervical cells are usually not worrying but require some form of treatment. You must discuss this further with your doctor and follow all instructions carefully. Be sure to discuss treatment options as well. The worst you can do is to begin to worry. Worrying can impact your health negatively.
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